I want to send a love letter to the women of the world
Women in all shapes and sizes
Women of all colours and classes
Women of all inclinations, desires and needs
Women who identify as cisgender, non-binary, trans and gender-diverse
Women loved
Women who break free
Women who are abused
Women who rage and rebel
Women who struggle through unimaginable horror
Women who hold their children close
Women with a voice
Women without a voice
Women who fight for their lives
Women who hope
Women who mourn
Women who laugh tears of joy, rage and sadness
Women who get up each morning to cook, clean, chase the missing sock, sign the form for school, negotiate a mountain of meltdowns and tears, and still get the kid to school on time
Women who work for one third less than men in the same job
Women who do menial tasks
Women who are leaders in their field
Women who clean, cook and work the field
Women who work in factories, in offices, in farms, in schools, in sheds, in hospitals
Women who drive forklifts, tractors, trucks and combine harvesters
Women who sing, dance, write and create
Women who are fast and strong
Women with muscle-butts
Women with saggy parts
Women who rise up and speak their truth
Women who fight to find their truth
Women who carry on in the face of violence
Women who nurse little ones
Women who choose not to
Women who pour love into others, who stay up all night to keep someone safe
Women who just get up every day
Dear women of the world,
You make the world go around.
Thank you for everything and every-one that you are.
Thank you to every part of you, the big, the small, the strong, the weak, the sad, the happy, the scared, the excited, the enraged, the shy, the loving, the funny, the wild and the shamed parts of you that hide in the dark.
I see you working in this world built on patriarchal foundations.
That minimises your toil, your body, your thoughts, your love.
I see your grief, your rage, your despair, your hope, your joy and your frustration.
You are a powerhouse of love.
Even when or if you don’t know it.
You deserve love.
You deserve care.
You deserve time.
You deserve space.
Here's to a building a society and culture that acknowledges you, lifts the pressure, builds the support and pays you properly to educate, nourish, care for, heal, and assist our people.
Here's to building a society and culture that holds you up with a strong and loving foundation, without blaming you for your lack of time - a lack created by the system that sets you up and judges you.
Here's to caring for you, prioritising you and providing you with
for your care, without guilt or doubt,
X Minky
If you are in need of help or support please reach out to a friend, a family member, someone in your community or someone at work.
If these don't help, please seek support from one of the following hotlines:
Home | 1800RESPECT, Ph: 1800 737 732 24
Lifeline Australia - 13 11 14 - Crisis Support. Suicide Prevention., Ph: 13 11 14
QLife, Ph: 1800 184 527
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