If you could find a way to keep doing the work you have been called to do, would you give yourself that opportunity?
Or would you
keep saying yes to everything when you are already exhausted?
continue to lie awake at night wondering how you’re going to get through the next day?
wish that things would get easier without changing anything?
Yes - we have overburdened systems.
But you can still learn how to take steps to support and nurture yourself so that you can keep your job, do the work you’re called to do AND enjoy your personal life with your family and friends.
I'm Minky van der Walt, a trauma therapist and mental health clinician who was originally trained as a Registered Music Therapist at the University of Melbourne.
As a mental health clinician with 20+ years of experience in supporting families and workers in schools, hospitals, early childhood centres, child protection and other community services, I know all too well the impact of this work that can have on your confidence, wellbeing and hope for the world.
Along the way I’ve learned some important things:
Just how valuable it is to have people in your corner - when I stood up to the lack of governance and inadequate support in a previous workplace, I learned the true value of feeling held, acknowledged and supported by my peers.
In my training at the University of Melbourne, we learned the true value of being held, to dig deep and go beyond words, to use music and art to engage with our most vulnerable selves, with safety and acknowledgement.
It is essential to find a safe way out of your head and into your body and feelings.
Building a new practice of support can be hard, but having a supportive team around you makes all the difference.
So, I'm on a mission to support health and education professionals like you, so that you can carve out some space for yourself, and step out of your current state of moving at a million miles an hour, to support you to come back from a state of feeling numb and shutdown.
I am passionate about showing clever, competent teachers and health professionals who shine in their work, that you don't have to drown in overwhelm because
you don't want anyone to know you're struggling
you've tried to get help before and it didn't work
This time, you need to come first.
Let me show you a way that is different to what you've tried before.
Key areas of learning:
get to know your body, your nervous system,how it responds to stress, and how it both seeks to protect you and help you to connect with others
recognising whether you are in fight, flight, freeze or shutdown, and how to support yourself back to a felt sense of safety
how to build a practice of rest (including short 'rest snacks') through music listening, embodied practices, drawing and writing
understanding how to match the needs of your nervous system with a chosen arts-based or somatic (body-based) support
Creating connection and belonging
You know what you need to do to rest, but putting this into practice amongst the busyness of life can be so hard.
Importantly, we all need connection and community when looking to our wellbeing.
Through NOURISH you will have the support of our group community to share ideas, wins and challenges, and to motivate each other to create space for the rest we all need.
Together we’ll explore music-assisted relaxation, mindfulness, breathwork, and embodiment to find techniques you can integrate into daily life.
Develop awareness of your physical symptoms of stress
Learn how to engage the breath and the body with a focus of mindfulness and music
Develop a restorative practice of rest and self care
Build your capacity for self compassion
Learn how to tune into your needs and your boundaries
Find support and connection with others
Explore and develop inner resources that you can use every day
What do you need?
a willingness to explore and be vulnerable
an open mind
readiness for change
access to a private space, a computer, tablet or phone, earphones and a cosy set up
What is involved?
Over the six weeks we will explore the following topics:
Connecting in with safety (within you, around you & with others)
Knowing your own nervous system
Self compassion & somatic resourcing
Routine, ritual & rest snacks
What does it mean? Bringing it all together
Each week blends creative arts experiences with learning about interpersonal neurobiology - how your nervous system both protects you and helps you to connect with others - in easy, digestible chunks (I am known for "having a wonderful way of putting theory into easy-to-understand language").
A lot of the content invites you into quiet, inner reflection through connecting in with yourself - your internal world, your feelings, your needs and your body, through
listening to music
gentle movement / body awareness / chair based poses
These are allprocesses that you will be invited to participate in as you feel comfortable. No writing, music listening, movement or drawing experience is required (don't worry, no making you sing or dance here!).
Before we go any further, I want you to know that your safety and confidentiality is at the heart of this program...
This is a small group of other health professionals and educators from around the country who are going through similar experiences, AND understand the vulnerability and courage required in this space. There is deep respect for this.
You only share what YOU feel comfortable sharing.
We all negotiate the terms of confidentiality within the group.
Baseline essentials are 1) what's said in the group stays in the group and 2) Respectful communication at all times. The rest is determined by participants.
There is a process where each participant has an individual meeting with me prior to the group starting to ensure that participants are a good fit as a group.
I have 20 years of experience in supporting people of all ages, from all walks of life, with some of the trickiest presentations.
And I have been facilitating groups for just as long - I know how to be supportive, inquiring and how to manage group dynamics so that you will feel safe.
Your felt sense of safety is at the core of each session.
Past participants have enjoyed many of the experiences, but overwhelmingly it has been the connection with others in a safe space, those who GET IT, that has been most appreciated.
2 x 30 minute individual sessions with Minky
6 x 90 minute group sessions
opportunities to make space for yourself
membership of a private facebook group and a weekly 10 minute practice live with Minky
art materials for use during and following the program
follow up explorations of music listening, art and embodied experiences that all support you to step towards a PRACTICE of rest and nurture in a guided format
a weekly music playlist to support your practice
Who should attend this program?
Managers, health professionals, teachers, emergency service workers, carers - anyone in a helping role who is feeling exhausted and looking for ways to find support, clarity and rest.
Why would I attend an online group?
Online groups with Tempo are nothing like the rabbit-in-the-spotlight Hollywood cliches you might be imagining. They are more of a cosy, snoozing-cat-type-of-feeling:
First of all, as an online group, you will be in the comfort of your own home. You are encouraged to make your own cocoon space at home - to set this up to be as cosy and comfortable, and joining in as you'd like.
These group programs have been organised so that there are opportunities for you and Minky to have an individual check-in for 30 minutes at the beginning and at the end of the program.
The initial session gives us the time we need to:
Understand where you’re coming from and where you want to be.
Give you ideas and resources that you can start working with right away.
Make sure that this is the right service for you right now.
There will also be one other individual session offered at the end of the program. This is an important way for us to make sure that your needs are being met. You are able to access the appointments for up to 6 weeks following the end of the group program.
If you have the relevant cover, you can claim private health insurance rebates with:
Emergency Services Health
St Lukes Health
EAP support and NDIS funding may also be available.
Please contact me or your provider to see if you are eligible or of you have any questions.
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